Step 2 – Know What You Want
The first step in this process is both the hardest and the most fun
You need to define what you want and write it down. And, I don’t mean just more money, a large home, or other material things, but the experiences you would like to have once you have those things.
It’s fine to describe how you would feel with a large home in your ideal location, but your job in this task is to write down in fine detail your ideal day with no limitations of any kind.
By this I mean, assume you have all the money you ever dreamed of, the health and fitness you want, are living wherever in the world you’d like, with whoever you like and have the time to do whatever you want with whoever you want.
Go to a yoga class, get a massage and go shopping every day if you’d like.
Go ahead and dream a little – or a lot! Don’t worry about being practical or within a budget. If you have young children and feel guilty about getting a massage, going to yoga or doing things for yourself, include supervised activities for your children with qualified professionals.
If your children are pre-school age, have a sitter who is also a nurse and has raised kids herself watch and play with or teach the kids while you’re out. Remember, you have unlimited money!
If the kids are older, hire the best experts with experience with the same age kids to teach them whatever you or they want.
Write down your day as an experience – in the first person – as though you were actually doing it. Illustrate it with photos of your dream house or anything else you want.
While you’re at it, if you’re married, why not have your husband clean up the kitchen and clean the toilets? You have unlimited money and could hire it done, but wouldn’t it be more fun to see him do it?
To help you do this, answer questions like these in your description of your day:
- where do you live?
- what does your house look like?
- what’s your view? what do you see out your bedroom window?
- what time would you get up?
- what would you say when you got up?
- what would you have for breakfast?
- what would you spend your morning doing?
- what would you have for lunch?
- who would you like to have lunch with?
- what would your friends be like?
- what would you do for personal fulfillment?
- what life purpose would you strive towards?
- would you go to work? If so, doing what?
- what would you do at work if you chose to work?
- what are your relationships like?
- what would you do for family time?
- what would you do with your kids?
- what would you have for dinner?
- who would you eat with and what would you talk about?
- what would you do in the evening?
- with who?
- what would your thoughts be as you went to sleep?
Write this down as though you were experiencing it as you write it. Do not worry about being committed to anything, you can always change it.
Does all this seem like ridiculous dreaming? Really it’s not. We’ll discuss more about what you do with this in the next few steps.